"Only in fairy tales does the hero slay the dragon once and for all, and live happily ever after. In real life the dragons keep coming. Considering the dragons we will probably have to slay and a lifetime, each of needs to have an ability to recover ourselves."

1. DIET: A healthy well balanced diet of proteins, vegetables, fruits, grains, and a minimum of fat some sugars. We need to educate ourselves on what encompasses a healthy diet. Information that is available from our physicians. Is useful to know that too much sugar deplete and to discover which foods energize.

2. EXERCISE: Regular exercise like walking, running, swimming, bicycling, tennis, and so on at least three times a week. Under stress and while recovering it is recommended daily exercise as it is appropriate for the individual for anywhere from 20 minutes to two hours to increase the sense of well-being. This can make a particular difference after a loss, trauma or stress.

3. REST: In contrast to activity, we may also need rest. Those of us who tend to drive ourselves hard, particularly may recover best with rest periods. Lying down and take it easy sometimes during the day, "cat naps" or reading breaks or closing our is for fifteen minutes can be rejuvenating. Both rest and sleep can regenerate.

4. MEDITATION: This is another form of rest or rejuvenation. Taking 20 minutes one to three times a day to go and word can be very healing, his daily quiet time can help us relax and regenerate ourselves. There are many techniques and books on meditating. One simple form of Meditating is to sit with eyes closed listening to classical music, from one side of a long planned record of approximately 20 minutes.

5. PEOPLE SUPPORT: Daily support of a friend, colleague, therapists, teacher, minister, or rabbi is a valuable nourishment. We benefit when we can't intimately, clear up the feelings of reactions, be understood or have a witness to our experience, and be encouraged to move forward. Friends and family may worry too much about us or get too involved in our problems or be unavailable. So, at times someone outside our regular life can be the most supportive in helping us to recover.

6. NOURISHMENT: Activities that nurture our bodies, like massages, hot baths, some baths or whatever personally appeals to us, are particularly supportive. The kind of nourishment I'm speaking of is not related to eating or food. Many of us habitually deny our needs so we may have to dig deeply to discover what would nourish us.

*Quoted from "You don't have to suffer" by Judy Talelbaum, Harper & Row, Inc 1989.